Relationships In The World

As we think too much about society and change, which is very much necessary at this point of time in the world but, it is also true that same change has to come from you and your family. We always forget this. The below remarks were eloquent and heartfelt and they captured perfectly one of the things we risk losing as a society that communicates primarily in snippets of misspelled words and emoticons.

“The one thing people can hopefully try to take away, I guess, is the relationships they have with people,” when something happened in our life with our beloved family members, I was sitting and, in my head, thinking what I could have done differently. When you ask someone how they are doing, do you really mean it? When you answer someone back how you are doing, are you really telling the truth?

“We live in a society of social networks, with Twitter pages and Facebook, and that’s fine, but we have contact with our work associates, our family, our friends, and it seems like half the time we are more preoccupied with our phone and other things going on instead of the actual relationships that we have right in front of us. Hopefully, people can learn from this and try to actually help if someone is battling something deeper on the inside than what they are revealing on a day-to-day basis.”

These are words that we should all study, and heed. I’ll be printing them out, keeping a copy on my desk, and reminding my family member thoughts whenever I can.

But the lesson is that we should all be more attentive to the people whose lives are intertwined with ours, through our families or our friends or our places of work. We enter and exit this world alone, but we are in between those moments part of a broad and complex fabric that both provides us with support and commands it from us.

Let’s remember that the next time — and every time — we’re more worried about interacting with someone who isn’t in the room than someone who is.


--Inspired from Brad Quinn's Facebook Statement.

Health and YOU

During 2004 I was busy with my work as usual but I observed that my mother was looking so tired day by day and refused to visit doctor. After 10^th day I took her to Doctor and he confirmed that she got diabetic that was the reason for her tiredness. Till that time her health was puzzle to me and then I thought that I got the clew for her tiredness. But when I came to home and spread the news to entire family everybody in the home cried instantly. Then I realized the seriousness of being the diabetic.

Doctor not only gave some medication but also gave some tips about how to fight against diabetic for long time. Then I told to my mother I can provide best food, money etc., but I can’t buy her health. She has to take care of herself. She changed her food habits and started walking etc. Till today her diabetic is under control. My uncles (Mother elder and younger brothers) also got diabetic, more or less than after two years both were gone! I wish I should have taken same care of them also but it was too late to do so. This incident hunted inside me for several thousand times.

Some time ago last year (2012) I was feeling very tired during the evenings when I reach home from the office. After observing for a week I met the doctor with same complaint. He asked me to go lab test then he confirmed that I am deficient of vitamin B12 and D3. He also told me that most of Indians in US (9 out of 10) will have this problem. I can’t believe this. Later I came to know on my research it is 100% true that each and every Indian (who is 30+ and lives in US) will have either high cholesterol, vitamin D deficiency or in the edge of diabetic limit. Thanks to our recent health habits! We, Indians are most complex and Hippocratic’s people in the world I feel. We never share our health info to others. When I spoke to couple of guys whom I met every day also confirmed that they are also having above said problems. That made me to write this blog.

If you have any one of the above said deficiency search in the internet and you fill find lots of useful information. You have to do two things mainly one is changing your food habits and another is doing some exercises .Then check three food items consumption in your home  Rice, Sugar and cooking oil. Note when you brought that item last time with quantity and when it is completed. By looking at the no days it completed with your family members in the home you can calculate daily average consumption. Try to double or triple that consumption duration time. Some tips here. Rice substitution is Quinoa ( You can get it from Costco and cook same like as rice)Oats, jowar flour, Ragi flour etc. Sugar substitute is Honey. There is no substitute for oil, you have to reduce it. Increase your meals frequency from 3 times to 5 times by adding a snack in between your break-fast and lunch time and adding another snack from lunch to dinner time. Finish your dinner 2 hours before your bedtime.

You have to do  exercises 5 times a week. Sunday and Saturday are no excuse days, you have to make it first thing you do exercise after waking up. Remaining 5 days plan for exercise in the morning. If you miss that time for any reasons, do it at office during lunch time. If you can’t do it at the office time, go for it during night time. If you plan like this you never ever miss it .If you are lazy person to go walk switch to yoga at home. Else play games like Tennis, Ball badminton, cricket etc. Remember that most of us have small kids and it is necessary to being fit and active for another 18+ years to bring up your kids and to see settling in their life.

After reading these blog still you are not able to motivate yourself.  That’s fine. That’s why Bhartruhari told long time ago. You have to choose which one you areJ.

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ఏదైనా పని మొదలు పెట్టినపుడు ఎన్ని అడ్డంకులు ఎదురయినా వెరువక తుదికంటా లక్ష్యం కోసం శ్రమించడమే కార్య సాధకుడి నైజం. అలాంటివారు ఉత్తములు. ఎప్పుడో ఎదురయ్యే అడ్డంకులను తలచుకుని ఏ పనీ చేపట్టనివారు అధములు. ఏదో చెయ్యాలన్న తపనతో మొదలు పెట్టినప్పటికీ మధ్యలో ఆటంకాలు ఎదురవగానే వదిలేసేవారు మధ్యములు.